Bullying In Schools

Hi All,

Welcome to the third Anti-Bullying Week post, today’s post, as you guessed is all about bullying in certain schools, we know it happens, we’ve either been through it ourselves or we know someone who has been through it. Sadly it seems as though bullying has touched many people in different ways throughout their lives.

Bullying is tackled in many different ways, one of which is the teachers within schools deal with it in their own way, for example when I was at school, if I was bullied it had to be reported to my head of year first and then it was taken from there, but most of the time, the head of pastoral care at the time would take the students who had been bullying me out of class and deal with them herself.

That is absolutely fine, until it reaches the point where the person who is being bullied is taken out of class and made to feel like the one who is doing the bullying in the first place, by the head of pastoral care actually turning around to me at one point and asking what I was doing wrong? So at the end of all that I was the one crying and shaking. Which brings me to my next point, is bullying dealt with properly?

Also, do teachers have favourite students? I try to think that they don’t these days, but they probably do, I remember when I was a school, the teachers that used to teach my more academic subjects which I excelled at were absolutely fine with me, but the teachers that used to teach me PE (Physical Education) used to be quite horrible to me, for example; Hearing of a toad was one of the comments from one teacher, when she was right over the other side of the playground from me and then Crocodile Tears was another remark from another teacher when she tried to make me do something that I really didn’t want to do and my Dad was terminally ill at that time.  Although the people who were really good at PE were fine, they didn’t have any problems with the teachers at all, but when I went to report this to my head of year, she wouldn’t hear anything of it. At the time I couldn’t understand why, but now I can because those teachers could’ve ended up losing their jobs because of my allegations, so they weren’t taken seriously by any members of staff, so eventually, I never went to a PE lesson in my last year at that particular school.

Have you ever experienced anything similar? If you have,  leave a comment below and please don’t forget to donate to the Anti-Bullying Alliance UK, who organise the Anti-Bullying Week for the whole of the UK. To donate to the Alliance please click on their logo below this post, many thanks.

 

Love Always

Jem

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One Comment Add yours

  1. dolphinwrite says:

    As a teacher, what I learned beyond time-outs and writings on the subject was to let all the students know they could always come to me with a problem, especially if it had to do with fighting. Now, in order to prevent every tear and every little problem from being expressed, I explained that with me, they would have the opportunity to come face to face with their bully, or the person they were having great difficulties, with me standing by to listen and advise. This is how it looks in practice. Say “Johnnie” (We always seem to use the name Johnnie.) is getting into scrapes with another boy, say “Peter.” [It could also work with Jessica and Pamela.] Johnnie comes to me with the problem, leaving a note on my desk. After I’ve taught the subject and all the students are on independent work, I take a look at the note, then look up at Johnnie. Is Johnnie calm? If not, I explain that I will talk with him when he’s calmed down (If the note indicates a very serious problem, I will address it very soon.). When he’s calmed down, time permitting, he and I have a talk, perhaps just outside the room or during recess. If we can address it then and there, and he feels like he can now handle the issue on his own, or he wants to take care of it on his own, I explain that physical fighting will have to be addressed. Let’s say, he wants to face his problem. I then find where that student is, and if in another class, send a note asking for the child at the teacher’s convenience. Then, when he comes over, I first have a talk with that student from his perspective. What I am doing is getting to know the student, letting him know I listen, but also that students in my class know they can always come to me. Afterwards, I have the two students face each other and tell each other what the other was doing that created the difficulty. Sometimes they are neighbors, and this always happens, before at home. Sometimes it’s a misunderstanding. Sometimes there is peer pressure. Sometimes, it’s something at home creating the problem in a child’s mind. I have know some parents who create illusions in their child’s mind, creating problems where none needs to be, for it’s sometimes the adults who are having the problems and they visit emotionally those problems on the kids, not necessarily intentionally, which is why we have all those parenting books.
    It’s at the point of communication that better understanding is achieved. Each kid or teen has finally looked at the other, talking calmly, and what is happening becomes very obvious. Often times, nothing else needs to be done. They both know I know, their parents will know, or will know if they continue, and that I have given them the opportunity to address the problem with answers they have come to, and they can now seek others to torment, but of course, now I know. This works very well, but it also requires an administration supporting. Take care.

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